Grief Resources:

The Dinner Party

The Dinner Party is a platform for grieving 20-, 30-, and early 40-somethings to find peer community and build lasting relationships. Since 2014, The Dinner Party has connected more than 13,000 grieving peers to one another, including 2,000 since the start of the pandemic. We screen, train and support a growing network of peer hosts, and connect them to 12-15 people nearby, who share a similar age and loss experience.

How It Works:

You join the club nobody wants to join. You lose someone significant in your life: a parent, sibling, partner, child, or close friend, whether 3 months ago, 3 years ago, or 3 decades ago. You feel a little bit like an alien. It’s harder to connect with family or friends. You feel isolated, alone, unsure of how to move forward with your life. You find out about The Dinner Party. You think “What! This exists?!” and decide how you want to participate. You can sign up for Buddy System, checkout our currently available Virtual Tables, or hop on the waitlist if none strike your fancy. Perhaps you want to just stay in touch, hear about events, and special storytelling projects? You can sign up for our newsletter and follow us on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.

You’re Going to Die

the You’re Going to Die movement is a deeper & more varied exploration of death & dying, one driven by creativity, fueled by arts & entertainment, writing & music, facilitating community connection & vulnerability, but always with the continued commitment to bring people creatively into the conversation of death & dying, while helping to inspire & empower out of an unabashed embrace of our losses & mortality… Check out events and workshops

Relationship Resources:

A Queer Vision of Love and Marriage with Tiq Milan and Kim Katrin Milan

Love is a tool for revolutionary change and a path toward inclusivity and understanding for the LGBTQ+ community. Married activists Tiq and Kim Katrin Milan have imagined their marriage — as a transgender man and cis woman — a model of possibility for people of every kind. With infectious joy, Tiq and Kim question our misconceptions about who they might be and offer a vision of an inclusive, challenging love that grows day by day.

What Questions To Ask When Creating Your Relationship Rules Agreement

Check out this helpful list of questions from Leveled Up Love, supporting polyamory and consensual non-monogamy.

Undieting, Body Image, Body Neutrality & Body Positivity, and Intuitive Eating Resources: click here to go to my blog post

Self Care and Compassion Resources:

Tara Brach Guided Meditation 11 min:  “The Rain of Self Compassion”

Guided Self-Compassion Meditations by Dr. Kristin Neff:

How to Parent your Inner Child:

Say these things to your inner child: 64 Positive Things to Say to Kids

Nervous System Regulation Resources:

Bringing Safety to the Nervous System [for Trauma and/or Anxiety]:

Resources for Emotional Support  and Crisis Situations

If you are having a crisis, or just feeling overwhelmed and need someone to talk to, please reach out for support. A little support can go a long way. Often we need someone else’s perspective to shine light where we can’t see it on our own, or simply to provide company in our difficult time, so we know we’re not alone. Below are phone numbers and chat rooms ranging from crisis intervention to warm lines, which simply provide emotional support.

Suicidal Ideation:                    


24-Hour Crisis Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK [online chat]

Multnomah County Crisis Line: 503.988.4888 & Toll-free: 800.716.9769;

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 ; 911

Walk-In Clinics in Portland, OR:

Urgent Walk-In Clinic (Multnomah County)

Need to meet face to face? Stop by our Urgent Walk-In Clinic.

The clinic can help anyone experiencing a mental health crisis at no cost.

  • Receive immediate care during a mental health crisis
  • Speak to a psychiatrist or a mental health nurse practitioner
  • Get help with medication and treatment

Location: 4212 SE Division St, Portland (MAP (link is external))

Hours: 7 am – 10:30 pm, seven days a week

Unity Mental Health Emergency Services

For immediate behavioral health emergencies, Unity Center welcomes walk-ins.

We’re here for you 24-hours a day, 7 days a week.
If you have questions about accessing Unity Center, you may contact the Access Information and Referral Team at 503-944-8009

Unity Center for Behavioral Health
Fax: 503-944-8011

Sometimes life seems unbearable or throws us curveballs we weren’t expecting. We get it. Our dedicated team of compassionate behavioral health professionals can help. Our psychiatric physicians, nurse practitioners, crisis intervention specialists and nurses are invested in you. They listen and partner with you to create a plan that best fits your needs. The Unity Center team will help you make an after-care plan and coordinate that plan with your community providers as well as your identified support system. Our goal is for you to leave Unity Center with a path to recovery in place.

For those that need a little more time for an emergency or crisis to lessen, we have stabilization spaces available for short-term use. For those who need longer-term solutions, we also offer inpatient care.

1225 NE 2nd Ave, Portland, OR 97232; 503-988-4888

Cascadia Health Urgent Walk-In Clinic

Cascadia’s Urgent Walk-In Clinic is open seven days a week, 9:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m., and provides mental health and addiction crisis services to all individuals in Multnomah County regardless of insurance, income, or age. Our Urgent Walk-In Clinic strives to provide appropriate care for those experiencing a behavioral health crisis. Every visitor is treated as a unique individual with their own values, beliefs, culture, and life experiences.

Our short-term services are based on clinical needs, and may include:

  • Counseling
  • Referrals to affordable mental health care
  • Psychiatric prescriber services
  • Substance treatment referrals
  • Other community resources

Our Urgent Walk-In Clinic is open 7 days a week,  4212 SE Division, Suite 100, Portland, OR 97206. Call us at 503-963-2575.


Hot Lines

National Self-Injury Help Line: 1-800-DON’T-CUT (366-8288)

Self-Injury Foundation: 1-800-334-HELP

 Bodies Under Siege: [online chat] [online chat]

Warm Lines [Emotional Support When Not in Crisis]

In these challenging times, many of us can feel lonely, isolated, or unsupported. Even if we have people in our lives to talk to, often these communications can have complex dynamics, that can make it hard to feel safe to share and know that we will truly be heard. At times just reaching out to a kind person who is trained to reflectively listen can help us feel connected and not alone, as well as help us feel heard and able to express what we’ve been carrying inside, and clarify our own truth (wisdom/needs).
Feel free to try these resources:
1) Eugene Listens [  ]

Is this a time in your life when you wish you could talk with someone who can just listen? Loneliness, insecurity, and grief are natural human responses to our current times, and not everyone has someone to whom they can reach out.Eugene Listens is a free service offering support by phone. We provide an accepting and caring space for anyone in need, regardless of their gender, racial, sexual, spiritual, and ethnic identities. Calls with Eugene Listens are up to 45 minutes long. Our volunteers are trained in active listening, and receive ongoing support to improve our quality of service.


 2) Call for Emotional Support:  [1-855-845-7415]:
Monday-Wednesday, 7am-7pm
Thursday-Friday, 7am-11pm
Saturday-Sunday, 11am-7pm

3) David Romprey Oregon Warmline – Community Counseling Solutions

(800) 698-2392

Hours: Monday 10 a.m to 8 p.m.; Tuesday Noon to 8 p.m.; Wednesday 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.;

Thursday 1 p.m. to 6 p.m.; Friday Noon to 5 p.m.; Saturday/Sunday 5 p.m. to 10 p.m.

4) Friends Helping Friends Warm Line is a peer run warm line in Connecticut that accepts national referrals. Callers may talk for fifteen minutes then wait a half hour to call again.
6PM-10PM (local time) on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays
Not toll free 860-681-5555

5) The Hartford Warm Line is a peer run warm line based in Connecticut but open to national callers. There is one Spanish speaking counselor (limited hours) and there are no call limits. There are no chat or text capabilities. Hours are 1:00pm-3:00pm Monday-Friday (EST/EDT).
Weekday Number Not toll free – 860-297-0844
Weekend Number Not toll free – 860-297-0920

6) Louisiana Warm Line
National peer run warm line based in Louisiana. No strict call limits, however repeat callers during one day may be limited. Hours of operation are Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday from 5:00pm-10:00pm (EST).
Toll free 800-730-8375

7) Montana Warm Line and Virtual Drop-In Center
The Montana Warmline is a peer run warm line based in Montana but accepting national callers. There are no translation services available, but they do have a chat feature available. Chat is through Yahoo, AIM, GoogleTalk, and MSN (username “montanawarmline”). Calls are limited to 15-20 minutes (unless a caller is in crisis, then they can have more time). Callers may call once per three hour shift, or twice per day on weekdays and four times per day on weekends.
4PM-10PM (MST/MDT) M-F and 10AM-10PM Sat and Sun
Toll free 877-688-3377

8) Reach Center (Washington State)
Reach Center (formerly CVAB) Warm Line is a pager based, peer run warm line out of Vancouver, WA accepting national calls. They are open from 5:00-10:00pm (PST) every day. There are no major call limits, though callers are usually restricted to one call per night. Usually it takes up to 15-20 minutes to receive a callback.
Not toll free 360-903-2853

9) Sacramento Consumer-Operated Warm Line
Sacramento Consumer-Operated Warm Line is a program of the NorCal Mental Health Association. The Warm Line is peer run and is available to all US residents. Calls are limited to two per day and about 20-25 minutes per call. At this time, due to budget cuts, calls are only available in English. Referrals to Sacramento area resources can be made.
9AM-4:30PM (PST) Mon-Fri
Toll free 855-642-6222

10) TLC Warm Line – Community Counseling Center
The TLC Warm Line is an entirely peer-run, non-crisis phone support line focused on southeastern Missouri but open to callers from anywhere in the United States. Peer counselors can provide empathy and emotional support, as well as local referrals if additional assistance is needed.
24/7/365 English language only.
Toll free Out-of-area calls 877-626-0638
Hotline Local calls 573-651-3642

11) Vision of Hope Warm Line (Arizona)
Vision of Hope is a national warm line based in Arizona. Calls are taken in English only, and calls are limited to 15 minutes every hour. Hours are Monday-Friday 12:00pm-12:00am, and Saturday/Sunday 4:00pm-12:00am Local time
Not toll free 602-347-1100

12) Washington Warm Line (Washington State)
The Washington Warm Line is a non-crisis, peer-staffed helpline available to anyone in the United States in need of emotional or mental health-related support. This line does not emphasize providing referrals. There are no official call limits, but callers are encouraged to call no more than once per hour.
Hours are limited but expanding, so please call to verify current hours.
Toll free Out-of-area calls 1-877-500-9276
For local calls 206-933-7001

13) The Cincinnati WARMLINE
The Cincinnati Warm Line is a non-crisis, entirely peer-staffed warmline open to callers from anywhere in the United States, 24-hours a day every day of the year. Peer counselors offer empathy and active listening, but do not offer advice or directives to callers. There are no texting or chatting capabilities. Referrals and information focus on the greater Cincinnati area, including Northern Kentucky. Calls are limited to one 20 minute call per counselor per shift (i.e. two calls per eight hours if two people on shift).
********Call volume is high, so multiple attempts or waiting on hold may be necessary to get through. No toll-free number is available, call the local number.
Not toll free 513-931-9276

14) MHASF’s Peer-Run Warm Line (San Francisco)
MHASF’s Peer-Run Warm Line provides emotional support and information about mental health resources. As peers, we have also had our own mental health challenges and use that experience to help others who may be struggling now. Referrals for San Francisco available.
At this time calls/chats from outside of the local area are subject to being limited to 2 per week.
7AM-11PM Weekdays and 11AM-7PM Weekends (PST)
Toll free 1-855-845-7415 or chat at:

15) [online chat]

If you’re struggling with an issue and need someone to talk to please click the “chat with a SoulMedic” button at the top of the page. By keeping your issue a secret you are giving it power to destroy your life while it spreads as a cancer into your thoughts, actions, and relationships. Isolation is the worst way to live a full life, because it convinces a person that no one needs to know, that no one really understands, and ultimately, that no one really cares. When we spend all our energies protecting our secret from the world this mindset can create an independence foothold that feels right but eats away from the inside out. Let us help – we have private chat 24/7 with SoulMedics who care.